How can I get my wife more adventurous?

[teachme]

Things get to be kind of repetative around here. Pretty much the same old routine (can happen after 13 years). She is fine with that, I live with it. I am definitely the one looking for more (I don't satisfy easily). m Sex drive is supposed to go down when you hit your mid-30's, mine is only getting stronger. Any ideas on what to do to invoke more interest and to try new things? (positions, facials, swallowing - all these things are lacking) She does enjoy a good porn movie, but doesn't like to play that way :(

teachme

[scorpiochick]

ask her to make a porn movie with you, be sure to include all the fun stuff. ;) :rolleyes:

[teachme]

I'll work that angle - thanks. Any ideas on how to approach it?

We also have a cruise coming up in June - a week with no kids - could work out well too...

BTW - kind of off topic - how did this forum come to be?

[fiftyone]

If you want more YOU GIVE MORE.

Take her to bed massage her hole body, Then go down on her until SHE can't take it anymore( I eat my wifes pussy for 2 hrs one time , more than one time.)

Hold her until she falls asleep.(you go jack yourself later if needed.)

Do everything you can to get her off the more the better.

Without being in bed , Talk to her about things NEW THINGS (SHE ) wants to try when making love.( then with out her asking...do it for her)

It may take a long time but keep it up, ask every week what she likes or would like to try. Tell her, think of something nasty for YOU to do for her.

Oneday she is going to say,"Honey, I have been thinking and I want to do something to you I have never done before..." Only after its her asking do you say what you want. Be nice and be flexable . If you want to cum in her
mouth , tell her its ok to spit if she wants. If you want her to lick your asshole or tongue fuck it, whatever , just tell her we will only do it 1 time if she don't like it or gets grossed out. (be sure you are always washed and clean before sex.

good luck!!

[LisaE]

One thing you might want to try is to get your wife to agree that for the next month the two of you have sex every night; no exceptions.

Each night the other one takes a turn leading the session - it's their call, as long the request is reasonable; the other must obey. The goal is to have sex every night without it getting boring. Each person needs to spend some time planning on how they want to do it. Your nights you can suggest your fantasies and her nights she does. Hopefully you will see adventuresome side come out.

I tried this a few years ago with one of my ex's. Obviously it didn't help the marriage but it made for a fun month.

Good Luck :)

[daisy]

'If you want more YOU GIVE MORE.' qoute from fiftyone Posted on Apr 26 2003, 10:33 PM

That ia most definitely the way forward. She must believe and know that she is so important.
:D :D :D

[teachme]

I've definitely done the give more to get more scene. Last time (2 nights ago) I got the "thanks for being so giving" comment - very unselfish. I will continue to be that way.

Lisa - thanks for hte idea. I will try that as well. I am working on the movie idea - I come home from work to the french made plot - I know - never been used before ;)

tm

[daisy]

:mellow: :mellow: :mellow:

We all love you

:rolleyes: :D :rolleyes:

[teachme]

Thanks Daisy,
I love you too - and I love sex - I can't get enough :D :w00t:
But - I know I won't be satisfied easily, so I will continue to persue things. All ideas and questions welcome ;)

tm

[Phaedrus]

There are tons of books on keeping your bedroom interesting. You can find them in the "Self Help" sections of Barnes & Noble, Border's, Walden's, Crown, etc. Start by buying a book, and taking the time to read a few chapters. If it's something you really want to do, this isn't a big sacrifice to keep your love-life interesting.

Get her involved in the selection. Something she'd like to read and try, too. Seriously, lots of top rate sex therapists put their "discoveries" in print, and some have helpful (hot) photos and illustrations, too.

Just a thought, sometimes we don't see what's readily available and an objective opinion can be helpful. Best wishes. B)