what women look for in sex?

[hvfan]

hi, i'm a newbie on this board and still relatively young and inexperienced compared to you all with 18 years of age. The dilemna i had is with my new girlfriend of 3 months. Both of us are technically virgins. The farthest she ever went was to have someone give her oral sex. myself i've only kissed a couple of girls, so i've never gone past 1st base you can say. I am concerned with my inexperience to consider asking her to have sex. It seems in my university a lot of the girls are not very sexually active so i am wondering is that normal cause a lot of us 18-21 years old guys are paying the price. I read somewhere that women don't hit their sexual peek till 35, and it seems the girls my age are not interested in sex. I am not really attracted to older woman and i want my first time to be with someone my own age. What i'm coming to is what turns women on to go the next step and commit to having sex? It seems most girls my age just want to hug and kiss, and aren't interested in going further. What forms of sexual response do women like? I've heard women like receiving oral sex but don't like giving it. Also i've read that women don't like anal or vaginal sex is this true? Any form of feedback would be appreciated, thanks.

[basco]

hvfan,

I'll be back later...but let me give you the best advice. If the lady says NO that means NO!!! Always respect your partners wishes...not to worry though...you will be respected...and your chances will get better... :rolleyes:

p.s.

fill out your profile (you can fudge)....it makes it easier for us to answer your questions....

[hvfan]

basco i appreciate the quick response. Browsing your profile without the intent of being nosy it seems you have a good sex life and your age indicates an experience that is lacking in my youthful years. The answer you gave me is a good one, but i already knew that. I would never want to force my gf into doing anything against her wishes, i was taught at a young age to respect women. The only thing i wanted to know was some information concerning women's sexual habits. From my own personal experiences i have noticed a lot of sexual energy around older women. I frequently visit a fitness club and i notice older women staring at me, etc. I don't mean to sound vane but i am decent looking and in good shape. It seems that these type of women are more active sexually then girls in the 18-35 year old category that i deal with. Is that because of the issue of menopause? I always assumed women didn't want to have sex because they could get pregnant but after mp they don't have to worry about that and are much more sexually outgoing. thanks again for the response.

[Marquis de Sade]

Hey buddy,
I was in your situation about 7 years ago and I know it sucks. You probably don't want to know what I did but I will share with you some advice for some of the things you've mentioned.

#1 All women are different- never forget that or you will be sorry
#2 I went to a very sexually repressed college and I found out that many of the girls wanted it, but they were afraid of: STD's (supposedly rampant at my school), pregnancy, reputation, or are just afraid that the guy will leave after he gets what he wants. " why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?" - a saying my present girlfriend uses to guilt trip me often. You've got to make her feel comfortable about the relationship reguardless for whether you think boinking is possible.
#3 It always appeared that everyone I've dated, even the ones that did not want to get sexual, liked to be sensual in some way. There are a billion ways to kiss a woman and some ways make them just feel good about themselves. Becoming a sexual person can be terrifying- many are curious, many are nervous.
#4 Talking with women from all around the country, they all say that comfort is the deciding factor when it comes time to getting physical.
#5 The first time is usually the hardest because of all the psychological barries attached to it.
#6 I'm really tired and I don't know if this is making sense
#7 You see, a woman is like a beer, tall, full bodied... and you run over your own mother just to get one... and then you have to have another... doh!

Ok, bottom line is comfort. You can try to be sensual, but you must read each situation so that she never HAS to say no. Back off when you (not mr. winky) thinks it's time.

The mere fact that you're asking for advice means that you're at least somewhat cerebral, don't let your wild stallion unbridled passion make for an uncomfortable situation.

As for everything else- some women scream for anal and oral (both ways), some women will only ever do vaginal on their wedding night. If you take your time and do things right.. and have the right woman... she'll be screaming for all three (and hopefully not all at the same time... different topic all together).

I have to say though... older women rock!

Good luck, play it safe

Cheers

[basco]

hvfan,

Told you we'd be back. Thanks for the profile info, I love Montreal. I had a beautiful red haired, big breasted girlfriend there. When I was drafted in 1968, she told me I could come and stay with her...but alas, I am a patriotic citizen.

Ironically, we were about your age at the time and sexual freedom was the norm. As for today, life is different, I don't envy you with AIDS and STD'S.

My advice is to get into your lovers heart and mind and not worry about getting into her pants...be patient, be a gentleman and you'll get what you want (even if it's not this one). There is no "system" or "method" I can recall, much less recommend.

BTW...There is one "rule" I have...my first goal is to please my lover...think about what she's feeling and what you can do to make her feel better....you'll be a better lover and you will last longer (when you get there). Don't worry about it, things will happen when they do...watch out though....SEX IS ADDICTIVE... :P :D :thumbup:

[basco]

One more thing...learn to cook...not kidding....it works my friend....believe me, a perfect meal, a little wine...you get the picture...a great meal should be simple but special, doesn't have to be hard to cook...as a matter of fact our first date was seasoned chilled shrimp, some "store bought" potatoe salad and beer at the beach....we have never looked back...good luck and keep us posted... :thumbup: :P

[Marquis de Sade]

Good Call, Basco!

[daisy]

:rolleyes: B) :rolleyes:

SEX!!!

:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

[daisy]

Originally posted by daisy@Jun 10 2003, 12:51 AM
:rolleyes:  B)  :rolleyes:

SEX!!!

:thumbup:  :thumbup:  :thumbup:
:devil: :devil: :devil:

ON A GIANT PINK MARSHMALLOW!!!

:w00t: :w00t: :w00t:

[basco]

Originally posted by daisy@Jun 9 2003, 08:54 PM
Originally posted by daisy@Jun 10 2003, 12:51 AM
:rolleyes:* B)* :rolleyes:

SEX!!!

:thumbup:* :thumbup:* :thumbup:
:devil: :devil: :devil:

ON A GIANT PINK MARSHMALLOW!!!

:w00t: :w00t: :w00t:

:P :P :P ..Daisy dear, that wouldn't be on my dinner menu...but desert is another thing...yum, yum.... :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

[basco]

B) B) B) ...Let's just try to get this kid laid...lol...lol.... :P :P :P

[LisaE]

I enjoy sex the most when the guy(s) icomes off as in charge - I guess it's the submissive part of me, but it also keeps me wondering where we are going next.

[basco]

<!--QuoteBegin-LisaE+Jun 19 2003, 06:16 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (LisaE @ Jun 19 2003, 06:16 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I enjoy sex the most when the guy(s) icomes off as in charge - I guess it's the submissive part of me, but it also keeps me wondering where we are going next. [/b][/quote]
LisaE...I would venture a guess that most men like at least some submisson in a woman...I myself like to be dominated at times...I especially love when my Baby sits on my face....hehe, she kinda likes it too...but, mostly I control the fun... :rolleyes:

btw...ya think this kid has gotten laid yet.... :whistling: :whistling:

kisses :kissing:

p.s.

she loves the feel of my beard on her sweet, shaved pussy :thumbup: :thumbup:

[ream]

I Don't Like to take the time to TRICK a woman into sex . :thumbdown:
if you want SEX , ! ! :kissing:
Get a Whore $20 Blow $40 Fuck :blink:
I think most girl's know He's going to Cum!! then there she is all hot and really and he need's a rest :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
Your hand might be better SeX.... :thumbup:

[basco]

<!--QuoteBegin-ream+Jun 20 2003, 07:03 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (ream @ Jun 20 2003, 07:03 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I Don't Like to take the time to TRICK a woman into sex . :thumbdown:
if you want SEX , ! ! :kissing:
Get a Whore $20 Blow $40 Fuck :blink:
I think most girl's know He's going to Cum!! then there she is all hot and really and he need's a rest :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
Your hand might be better SeX.... :thumbup: [/b][/quote]
:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

take a chill pill ream... :P :P :P ..just trying to teach this kid how to treat a woman...there are many variations... :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

kisses :kissing:

p.s.

and get laid... :blink: :blink: :blink:

[fiftyone]

If you need sex on dates, jerk off before you go out with your girl.

If you want her to want you, never press her for sex. Never even talk about it.

Just be there every day and every nite in her face ( as much as you can ).

If she likes you one day she will love you and want you to make love to her.

When that day or night comes you tell her you respect her to much to go to bed with her.

It is very hard not to take that pussy the 1st time just be very loving and kiss alot and take her home.( she will dream of nothing but you and think of nothing but getting to your cock) You go home and jack off 3 times if you need to.

BUT, The next date be ready for the best sex with this lady because you are going to get laid but good and any time you want it, she will be there.

Be careful tho!!! I married the one I did this to.... :smartass: :blush:

[lookatme]

Marquis....I loved the women are like beer analogy...That's good stuff!

[clit commander]

why o women just lay there an expect you (the guy) to do all the work

then they expect you (the guy) to be happy and fully satisfied with cumming inside her

or maybe im a strange guy *shrugs*

i wanna be played with and lay there for like an hour while she blows me and makes me feel good for once

i might have to registed to this forum you know, very intresting and helpfull y'all are!

wont be able to get on here when we live together tho, she'd go nuts probly hahahaha